
Chlly Nichole
32.
Bronx born and raised
Hey guys! I'm Chlly – an author, writer, and content creator. After years of going back and forth with myself, I'm excited to finally share my passion project with you.
Drinks After Work is a platform that delves into topics that we often keep hidden behind our "happy customer service" friendly faces at work. It's a space where we can take off our masks, kick our feet up and talk about what's really going on within us. Relationship ups and downs, self-love, spirituality, health, and much more!!
Episodes

Monday Oct 21, 2024
Monday Oct 21, 2024
Triggers are stimuli—such as sounds, sights, smells, or even emotions—that provoke intense and often distressing emotional or physical reactions because they are linked to past traumatic experiences. For individuals with trauma, these triggers can bring back memories or feelings associated with a traumatic event, causing the body and mind to respond as if the event is happening again. This can lead to flashbacks, anxiety, panic attacks, or other emotional disturbances.Trauma is an emotional response to a deeply distressing or disturbing event, such as abuse, an accident, a natural disaster, or violence. Trauma can be acute (from a single event) or complex (from repeated exposure to distress over time). It leaves a lasting impact on an individual’s mental, emotional, and physical well-being, often leading to conditions like PTSD (Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder), anxiety, or depression. When a person is exposed to a trigger, their body may react automatically—through increased heart rate, sweating, or difficulty breathing—because the brain's fight-or-flight response is activated. The body may sense danger, even if none is present. While triggers can be unique to each person, common examples include loud noises (linked to past explosions or gunfire), certain scents (reminders of a specific place or person), or situations that mimic a past traumatic event. Managing triggers involves recognizing them, developing coping strategies, and possibly working with a therapist to heal from the trauma. Trauma-informed care, grounding techniques, mindfulness, and other therapies are often essential in helping individuals reclaim control over their responses and reduce the impact of their triggers. Understanding both triggers and trauma is critical to offering support and creating safe environments for those affected by these deeply ingrained responses. Make sure to LIKE, COMMENT & SHARE!! Follow on IG and TikTok for more!!

Monday Oct 14, 2024
Monday Oct 14, 2024
Letting a friend out of the friendzone is about recognizing and embracing a deeper connection that may have been brewing beneath the surface. It starts with acknowledging your feelings and understanding that your bond has the potential to evolve into something more romantic. The first step is open communication; gently expressing your feelings can clear the air and pave the way for honesty. Choose a comfortable setting where both of you can talk freely. Share your thoughts on how your friendship has grown and how you see them in a different light now. Be prepared for a variety of responses—your friend might feel the same way, or they might need time to process. It's important to approach the conversation with sensitivity and respect, no matter the outcome. If they’re receptive, explore the new dynamic together, allowing the relationship to develop naturally. If they don’t feel the same, be gracious and reaffirm your friendship; sometimes, deepening your bond can create an even stronger foundation for both of you. Whether it leads to romance or reinforces your friendship, taking this step can be a beautiful journey of growth and connection. What are your thoughts?!?! Like. Comment. Share.

Monday Sep 30, 2024
Monday Sep 30, 2024
Knowing when to walk away from a relationship is crucial for personal well-being and emotional health. The perfect time to leave is when the relationship consistently harms your mental, emotional, or physical health. This could be due to repeated patterns of disrespect, manipulation, dishonesty, or a lack of trust and communication. When attempts to resolve conflicts or address core issues fail, and you find yourself feeling drained, unappreciated, or unsupported, it may be time to move on. If the relationship stifles your personal growth or causes you to compromise your values and self-worth, that’s a clear signal. You might also feel trapped in a cycle of trying to fix things, but without any meaningful change. Ultimately, when the relationship no longer brings joy, mutual respect, or a sense of partnership, and the hope for improvement feels more like a burden than a possibility, it's likely time to walk away. Make sure to follow on IG (drinks afterwork_podcast), like, subscribe and tell a friend we have things to talk about after work!!

Monday Sep 23, 2024
Monday Sep 23, 2024
Being a leading man in a relationship means embracing a role that blends confidence, support, and authenticity. It involves taking initiative while also valuing collaboration and open communication. A leading man inspires trust and safety, making his partner feel cherished and empowered. He listens actively, respects boundaries, and encourages growth, both individually and as a couple.This role isn’t about dominance but about partnership—guiding when necessary and allowing space for his partner to shine. A leading man is dependable, facing challenges with resilience and a positive attitude. He knows that vulnerability is strength, sharing his thoughts and feelings honestly. Ultimately, being a leading man is about creating a nurturing environment where both partners can thrive, fostering love, respect, and mutual admiration. It’s about walking together, hand in hand, toward shared dreams and deeper connections. Make sure to follow, share and comment!!!

Monday Sep 16, 2024
Monday Sep 16, 2024
Maturing as a woman is a multifaceted journey that encompasses personal growth, self-awareness, and evolving perspectives. It involves embracing and understanding oneself more deeply, both emotionally and intellectually. This process often includes recognizing one's values, setting personal goals, and developing resilience in the face of life's challenges.As women mature, they typically become more attuned to their own needs and desires, learning to balance ambition with self-care. They often gain clarity about their priorities, which might involve navigating relationships, career ambitions, and personal passions with greater confidence. Emotional maturity allows for more meaningful connections with others, built on empathy, communication, and mutual respect.Maturing also involves a continuous reassessment of identity and purpose. Women may find themselves revisiting their goals, questioning societal expectations, and redefining success on their own terms. This stage of life can bring a deeper sense of self-acceptance and empowerment, as well as a more nuanced understanding of one’s place in the world. Ultimately, maturing as a woman is a dynamic and ongoing process, marked by growth, learning, and evolving perspectives that contribute to a richer, more fulfilling life. Tune into the live Wednesday as we go more in depth with growth as a women in todays society and the pressure behind it. Follow on IG and TikTok

Monday Sep 02, 2024
Monday Sep 02, 2024
Independence is generally considered a positive trait, reflecting strength, self-reliance, and the ability to make one's own choices. However, in certain contexts, the notion of being "too independent" can reflect societal discomfort with women who assert their autonomy and challenge traditional gender roles. Ultimately, independence is a personal quality that varies among individuals and should be celebrated rather than scrutinized. The emphasis should be on respecting each person's choices and promoting a society where everyone—regardless of gender—can confidently navigate their own path without facing undue criticism or pressure to conform. Comment your thoughts. Are women too independent nowadays or are guys lacking in more than one area?

Monday Aug 12, 2024
Monday Aug 12, 2024
Sex, while often celebrated as a profound and fulfilling experience, isn't universally satisfying for everyone. For some, it may lack enjoyment or even be uncomfortable or distressing. Various factors can contribute to this, including physical discomfort, emotional disconnect, or mismatched expectations. Sometimes, personal or relational issues, such as lack of communication, trust, or intimacy, can overshadow the experience. Additionally, cultural or personal beliefs and past trauma can also affect one’s perception of sex. It’s important to recognize that sexual satisfaction is deeply individual and multifaceted, and what works for one person may not be the same for another. Open dialogue, empathy, and understanding can be key in addressing and improving one’s sexual experience. Follow on IG for more!! Like. Comment. Share.

Monday Aug 05, 2024
Monday Aug 05, 2024
When discussing the concept of women being perceived as too masculine in relationships, it's important to approach the topic with sensitivity and awareness of evolving gender norms. Traditionally, certain traits have been associated with masculinity, such as assertiveness, independence, and leadership. When women display these traits, they may sometimes be labeled as "too masculine" due to longstanding stereotypes about gender roles. Ultimately, the success and satisfaction of a relationship depend on mutual respect, understanding, and acceptance of each partner's unique qualities. Embracing a diverse range of attributes, irrespective of gender, can lead to more fulfilling and equitable relationships. Comment, Like and Subscribe to the IG!!

Monday Jul 22, 2024
Monday Jul 22, 2024
Social media has transformed the way we connect, share information, and express ourselves in the digital age. It encompasses a vast array of platforms—from Facebook and Twitter to Instagram, TikTok, and beyond—each offering unique ways for individuals to interact and engage with others globally. However, the pervasive use of social media has raised significant concerns regarding its impact on mental health. With the numbers of depression, suicide and overwhelming feelings constantly rising, taking a break from the swipe up and down, hart and like apps is a must. Make sure to follow on IG to comment and share!

Sunday Jul 07, 2024
Sunday Jul 07, 2024
Before entering a romantic relationship, being friends lays the foundation for a deep and meaningful connection. It's a phase where two individuals bond over shared interests, values, and experiences without the pressure of romantic expectations. Friendship involves mutual support, trust, and understanding, fostering a sense of companionship and comfort. It allows both parties to truly get to know each other on a personal level, appreciating each other's quirks, strengths, and vulnerabilities. Do you think it is essential to have a friendship before a romance? Comment below!!

Follow Me On
Join in on the conversation. Let me know your stories, make suggestions for future convos and more.
IG - b.addie_chell_
TikTok - sincerely_chell
Twitter - LuvNichole






